Lightworkers

 

 

How to create “zen” on the planet? Love.  We all crave love.  That’s why we’re hurt so easily when we don’t find it…or thought we had and realize it wasn’t real.  Love is precious.  It’s life changing.  It’s essential.  Light workers harvest love.  And they give it away in bunches.  Wherever it’s needed.

The (In)Fidelity Factor by Elda M. Lopez

 

Conflicted about the role of (in)fidelity in relationships?
Hurt? Angry? Confused?
Need simple, sound advice?

The author can relate. She’s been on both sides of the fence and addresses infidelity prevention in real terms. This is a much-needed book for those with a desire to know, and those in the throes of desire re: (in)fidelity in a committed relationship. An honest, easy, concise read that gets to the crux of the matter, with bits of humor thrown in for good measure. It offers up plenty of points to ponder; along with valuable information, statistics, commentary, personal stories (including the author’s own) and surveys for examination.

Guidelines are given to preserve integrity and respect before falling victim to the harmful backlash of infidelity–and it’s a big one. The purpose is to promote awareness, education, personal accountability, and growth. Bottom line: cheating is defeating. Right? This is your call to action, no matter which side of the fence you find yourself. Get healthy, get happy, get reading. This is where the change-up begins!

Interview with Elda:

1.  Why did you decide to write this book?
I decided to write this book because infidelity has gone absolutely wild, and it’s annoying. High profile people are continuously dropping left and right (it was also a point of contention during the recent presidential campaign), so you can imagine what’s happening in our own backyards, and bedrooms. Infidelity is becoming normalized. Why? Why is this acceptable? Prevention is key, so I took to mine and kept typing away.
Having been on both sides of the fence, I know the struggles–not pretty. There is much to be lost when adultery enters a committed relationship: emotionally, financially, psychologically; not to mention the possible extended mayhem: arson, dismemberment, murder–all real! This behavior affects everyone involved. Because infidelity is such a highly emotionally charged topic, most people don’t realize there are various backstories; nor the scope of the fallout. I wanted to address infidelity prevention in a manner that would be easy to comprehend and hopefully, make a difference.
2.  What do you hope to accomplish through this book’s publication?
My hope is that someone, anyone, will have at least one positive takeaway that can be applied to their life. Better overall understanding, eye-opening moments, and paying the good forward are also welcomed. I emphasize self-awareness, personal accountability, and growth. These aren’t easy subjects for people to acknowledge, but they are essential components for infidelity prevention.

When my ex-husband cheated on me, I chose to take a look at myself as well. His actions were definitely of his own doing, but I had contributed to our disconnect on some level. It’s difficult for people to look at themselves, much less when they’ve been betrayed. I get that. However, I didn’t want to take unproductive patterns with me into a future relationship. And, I certainly wasn’t going to play the victim card. I wanted to get healthy. That’s what I wish for others, on a very large scale. My goal is not to eradicate infidelity, my mission is to bring awareness and do some educating while I’m at it. I’d like to switch up legislature too. I have a very long to-do list!
3.  Do you have any other published work?
So far, this is my only book. At some point, I’d like to do a broader version (are you listening lit. agents?). I’ve learned a tremendous amount during this whole process. I consider myself to be nonjudgmental, but I’ve had to continuously push back my boundaries to accommodate someone’s else’s reality with infidelity. It’s a huge subject with many tangents. There’s still tons of work to do. This particular plate is always full: I’ve been known to have a hearty appetite.
4.  What is one surprising fact you’d like your readers to know about you?
Surprising fact about me? A million years ago in college, I studied abroad at the University of Copenhagen, Denmark: one of the best experiences of my life. It’s a lovely country. I lived with a Danish family with whom I’m still in contact. We’ve also exchanged visits. They truly are an extension of my immediate family. Also, I flunked out of two classes due to my love of travel. Hey, life experience is just as important as book experience. Luckily, I had enough credits so that it didn’t make a difference. Besides, what I gained was absolutely priceless.
5.  If you could fulfill one wish in life, what would it be?
One wish: That all my wishes will be fulfilled. I’m getting closer!
Where you can find Elda:
http://www.eldamlopez.com/
http://mybook.to/facebookeml
http://amazon.com/author/eldamlopez.com
https://twitter.com/eldamlopez
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FmvDF58NIik

 

Two New Singles I’ve Created!

Twenty years ago I wrote and created music. The time has come to start again! What do I write? Easy listening/rock/pop. Sometimes a bit alternative. A combo. I like to mix things up.

These two new singles are available on itunes at the present moment. They will also be available on google music, amazon music and more in the upcoming weeks. I’ll keep the links updated.

For My Baby and I Miss You were written for my daughter who recently passed. Her death blindsided me. I wasn’t expecting it…it was devastating. So as a way to deal with the pain, I’ve begun writing music again. I’ve also written numerous poems and posts about my beloved Kelby on Niume. Feel free to check it out if you feel so inclined.

Thank you to those who have supported me over the years. Your friendship means a lot. It helps me stay upbeat in this difficult world.

https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/for-my-baby-radio-version-single/id1206895872

https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/i-miss-you-single/id1206898119

 

Being Frugal

Whether this concept is an old one to you…or a new one…it’s still worth mentioning. I know I need reminders about this frequently myself! Here is a message about money…the material possession which makes our society go ’round! (Whether we’d like to admit it or not!)

Be frugal. Be wise. Life requires wisdom in order to succeed.

Dreams are important-they’re necessary-but so is living in the moment according to the means at your disposal. If you get caught up in believing for your wishes to come true in Now, you’ll find yourself in debt. Take one day at a time with your heart believing for tomorrow. Slowly build your efforts. It’s a lifestyle just like everything else.

If you’re patient, your efforts will pay off! And you won’t have to pay “big time” for that to happen!

Now Determines The Future

 

Now determines the future. Now is the “seat” of tomorrow. Don’t project what happened yesterday into tomorrow. You’ll create more of the same in “what is to come”.

If you want to start fresh, make Now the best you can and see that best going forward into tomorrow. That is the most productive way to correct past mistakes, one moment at a time. And if you slip up or get off track, don’t worry or fear. Just realign yourself in a successful Now and the future will be much brighter and better.

Remember: life is a journey and we are all works in progress!

Increase Love’s True Grit

Be the best you can be;
It’s all you can do;
Put yourself in ,
Another one’s shoes.

Re step your reasons,
Your where and your why;
Only then will you begin to
Grow wings and fly;

Pain is a process,
Letdown a game,
For inside each one of us,
We’re all made the same.

Once we embrace this,
And dance through our trials,
Life will have meaning,
We’ll endure it with smiles.

Heartbreak is a part of
This challenge and course,
If we clear all our hurdles,
We’ll break every curse.

So next time a crisis,
Of loss and grief hit,
Don’t believe the illusion,
Increase love’s true grit.

Dedicated to my daughter Kelby.  May we live by her example of love and light.

 

Kelby

The pain is so deep-
Every time I have a memory,
Every time I hear a song you loved,
Every perfect picture waiting to be taken,
Causes bitter tears of grief to awaken
My broken heart again.

Everywhere I go-
Everyone I meet, people who I talk to,
Remind me of you and your beauty;
I miss your caring heart, your giving aura of love;
You were so much more than the average person
Could have ever hoped to be.

My soulmate-
We dreamed together, had grand plans,
We laughed about silly things,
Fought about even sillier things,
Then hugged and reconciled,
Knowing our love was one quite rare.

My daughter, my baby-
My best friend;
I raised you to be loving, understanding,
A light in the darkness.
How could God snuff out
Someone so incredibly beautiful at such a tender age?

How could He allow it-
When your presence changed lives
And your perspective made everything better?
Your glow could be felt by everyone who knew you;
You made things make sense, you brought life into situations;
You were a constant help to those in need.

I miss you, Kelby. I always will-
Until God has me take my last breath on this earth,
Nothing will ever be the same again.
The beauty you left behind is agonizing,
The purpose you gave us torturous
Because you were ripped from us without even so much

As an explanation.

Now Is All We Have

I AM the Method,
I AM the Key,
I AM the Answer,
Please reference Me.

I AM the Creator,
I AM the King,
I am the Light,
In whom creation sings.

When you’re in doubt,
You know you will fall;
Cry out to Me,
The Intention of all.

I AM your Redeemer,
Of first and of last,
I AM the Gatekeeper,
Of all time that does pass.